The realist recognizes that people have their limitations. The idealist hopes for the moon and the stars. The realist is fine with making lemonade here on earth. The pendulum swings, back and forth, back and forth ad infinitum. I want to keep questioning, keep experimenting, keep dreaming, keep doubting. Living the examined life is not a quiet prospect. Martin was a columnist for On Being. Her newest book, The New Better Off: Reinventing the American Dream , explores how people are redefining the American dream think more fulfillment, community, and fun, less debt, status, and stuff.
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My advice is to rely on yourself! Because idealists always want to see the best in people when idealist fall in love with someone they too often see perfection and not who that person really is. In the first stages of a relationship, idealists are wildly romantic but too often are not so good with the day-to-day demands of long-term relationships.
Have you heard of the term practical idealism? The idea is that you are obliged to follow and put into practice ideas of virtue or good but you are also obliged to make compromises to realise your high ideals. It is better to make some compromises rather than abandon your grand plan. That does not mean behaving unethically, but it may mean that your grand, supercalifragilisticexpialidocious project is only a grand, super project on completion!
It might only be an 8 out of 10, not a 10 out of 10! Personally, I have embraced realistic idealism or practical idealism. This is now my mantra, God, give me the grace to accept with serenity the things that I cannot be changed, courage to change the things that should be changed and the wisdom to tell the difference between the two!
Idealism is the belief that you should stick to your principles, even if your principles have a negative impact on your life. The idealist is prepared to suffer in order to do what he or she thinks is right. Meanwhile, realists reject idealism. If the ideal gets in the way, the realistic will review the situation and abandon the ideal for a very basic, easy solution. However the practical idealist is prepared to compromise but will still strive to get as close to ideal as possible.
Look at what you could achieve if you blend these skills sets. Realistic idealism means that you want to make the world a better place, and you are prepared to do the ground work to achieve that. Good luck and give practical idealism a go. Pat Mesiti is a best-selling author, coach and educator in the area of personal development. Thank you for your article. As a heartbroken idealist, it gave me much needed insight and a glimmer of hope. Is it Better to Be an Idealist or Realist? These are what I see as the main strengths of idealists.
We are the most creative problem solvers Idealists are able to imagine solutions that are often unique and unusual. We always expect the best from others Idealists always see the good in everyone. Idealists are constantly trying to improve themselves We idealists are always striving to become the people we hope to be. Idealism vs.
In order for us to be able to differentiate between idealism and realism, we must first have a thorough understanding of the two terms. Idealism is when you envision or see things in an ideal or perfect manner. Realism, on the other hand, tends toward a more pragmatic and actual view of a situation.
These commonly accepted definitions of the words are rooted in the philosophical uses of the terms. In philosophy, when discussing the issues of perception, idealism is a theory that states that our reality is shaped by our thoughts and ideas. Realism, on the other hand, deals with the fact that reality has an absolute existence independent from our thoughts, ideas and even consciousness. Using the classic test of whether the glass is half empty or half full as an example, we see that idealists tend to be positive thinkers — i.
Realists many not hold the opposite or negative point of view, but they do view a situation through less hopeful eyes. Realists are stereotypically seen as people who are very rational, who think carefully, and weight their options before making a choice. In this sense, realists make safer and more practical choices when compared to idealists, who may be willing to make more risky decisions. These perspectives also have an impact on how individuals deal with success or failure in their lives.
However, being lost in a world of fantasy and unachievable goals may not always be a good thing, as an idealist may set goals that are impossible or grandiose. A realist, on the other hand, is more likely to set achievable goals, and follow their pursuit in a planned manner.
Overall, idealism and realism can be understood as two different perspectives. Some of the key differences between them include:. Idealism causes you to see things in a very hopeful manner, shaping situations with your own ideas.
Realism, on the other hand, causes one to assess a situation as it is, without overt emotional involvement. Idealists tend to be more positive when compared to realists, in how they perceive things and carry out tasks. When making decisions, realists are more goal oriented and thorough than idealists, who may have lofty ambitions, but lack the clarity and focus to put them into action in an achievable way.
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